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Welcome to Clayton Counselling Services. We are located in Duncan, British Columbia and are pleased to offer extensive counselling service, with over thirty years of professional experience. We are dedicated to building healthy, thriving, communities so don’t hesitate to click below and learn more about our services.

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Proudly delivering over fifty-five years of combined, professional counselling services for families and individuals. We are highly specialized in Addiction, Cognitive Therapy, Anger Management and much more. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more.

About Clayton Counselling
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Dr. Clayton, B.A. : M.Div. : D.Min : PhD (Psych) RCC has been providing exceptional counselling services in Ontario and British Columbia since 1997. A key member of several associations, Dr. Clayton has clearly demonstrated the highest quality counselling services in his community. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

About Dr. Kent
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Jan Clayton: B.A. (Psych); M.A. (Psych) is a highly respected Family Therapist with over twenty-five years of professional Clinical Counselling Experience, specializing in adolescents, families, individuals and couples. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more.

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Clayton Counselling Services is pleased to offer a wide variety of effective, professional support services for Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Family, Addictions and so much more. Click here to learn more about our services and book a consultation, today! We look forward to hearing from you.

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Today is the right day to become a healthier, happier, better version of yourself. We are here for you and no one should go through addiction alone. Our professional counselors are here to help! Click below to learn more and get started!

Substance Addictions
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We help you focus on your triggers and managing those situations, with our Anger Management therapy. Don’t hesitate to click below to learn more. We are ready, willing and available to be of assistance.

Anger Management
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Anxiety and Depression are best dealt with through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. CBT has been widely shown as an effective treatment of phobias, depression and anxiety. Click below to learn more.

Anxiety and Depression
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Bereavement is the grief and mourning experience following the death of someone important to you. While it’s an inevitable part of life—something that virtually all of us go through at some point—losing someone you love can be one of the most painful experiences you’ll ever have to endure. Don’t hesitate to learn more, we are here to help!

Bereavement Grief and Loss
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Bullying isn't just linked to depression and anxiety, it can also lead to more subtle effects such as problems with trust and self-esteem. Click below to learn more!

Anger Bullying and Depression
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We are pleased to offer expert child custody evaluation services, by our trained mental health professionals. Let us compile all the necessary details and reporting in the best interests of your child.

Child Custody Evaluations
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Understanding and adjusting to a new culture can come as shock to some people. Whether you are now living in a new culture or are trying to bridge cultural gaps in your relationships, it can be difficult to navigate cultural boundaries. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Cross Cultural Issues
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You can count on Clayton Counselling for Trauma and Crisis Intervention for our variety of approaches to provide psychological and emotional support to those experiencing stress in the immediate aftermath of traumatic event. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Crisis and Trauma Intervention
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If you are experiencing domestic abuse or family violence, please tell us as our services are highly geared towards you circumstances. Click below to learn more.

Domestic and Family Violence
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Family conflict occurs every day. Typically, when family members have different views or beliefs that clash, this can lead to family conflict. Sometimes, when people misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusion, this can often lead to arguments and resentment. Don't hesitate click below and learn more.

Family Conflicts
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Our services are invaluable during conflicts. Our professional services can help families resolve conflict in a practical, safe and positive manner. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Family Mediation / Resolution
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer professional Marriage and Family Therapy Counselling Service in British Columbia. You have come to the right place if you are seeking relationship counseling for yourself, significant other or family member. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Marriage / Family Counselling
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer the equivalent, hours-long conversation about your hopes, expectations and dreams as your prepare for the fine institution of marriage. We are here to help every step of the way! Don’t hesitate to click on the link below to learn more.

Marriage Preperation
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Let’s face it: Parents face difficult issues such as discipline, bad decision making of their kids, poor friend choices and school problems, all the time. The single parenting struggles aren’t always as much about the child, but the parent’s issues that make it more complicated. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Parenting Problems
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The average individual will change careers several times during his or her working life, according to career statistics. With an ever increase number of career choices, Clayton Counselling is here to help you on your life journey. Click below and learn more.

Personal and Career Changes
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is classified as a mental health condition, triggered by a terrifying event – either experiencing it or witnessing it. Some symptoms may include nightmares, anxiety, flashbacks as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Post Tramatic Stress Disorder
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Fear of Public Speaking or public speaking anxiety is a type of social anxiety and single most commonly feared situation. Clayton Counselling has helped hundreds with the verbal communication skills to improve careers, social life and overall confidence. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Public Speaking
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer professional Relationship Counselling Service. We help couples create more closeness and security with each other by exploring issues such as communication, infidelity and communication. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Relationship Counselling
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Self esteem therapy (cognitive behavioral therapy) is effective in the treatment of low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. We can help you recognize the cause and monitor negative beliefs, doubt, and anxiety in order to alleviate painful feelings which will help you take constructive action. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Self Esteem
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer a wide spectrum of techniques and therapies aimed at controlling a person’s level of stress, particularly chronic stress, usually for the purposes of and for the motive of improving everyday functioning. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Stress Management
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According to proponents of the concept, sexual addition, also known as sex addiction, is a state usually characterized by compulsive participation or engagement in sexual activity, particularly sexual intercourse, despite negative consequences. Click below and learn more.

Sexual Addiction
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Sexual dysfunction applies to both males and females. It can include pain during intercourse, involuntary painful contraction of the muscles, lack of interest or trouble having sex or enjoying sex. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more!

Sexual Dysfunction
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Child Sexual Abuse, also called Child Molestation is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation. If you’re a survivor of childhood sex abuse, Clayton Counselling is here to help. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more.

Survivor of Childhood Sex Abuse
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more

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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

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Counselling in Chemainus
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

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Mon - Fri: 9AM - 7PM
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(250) 597-8274

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6038 Sterling Dr., Unit 7 Duncan BC V9L 5K4 Canada

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Domestic Abuse and Family Violence

Quite a few individuals grew up with abuse and violence, so if this is you, then you know firsthand how traumatic and frightening this can be. We can tell you that it takes a lot of care and understanding of the entire situation in order to bring it to resolution. Absolutely no judgement, just empathy. If you are currently experiencing this, don’t hesitate to reach out to My Caring Counselor to learn more about our services and discuss how can work together to improve your situation.

What Exactly is Abuse?

Abuse does occur more regularly than most people realize. Whether its husband on wife, or wife on husband and very few will tell anyone – not a friend, a neighbor, or the police.

Victims of domestic violence are not isolated to one group of people, it comes from all walks-of-life, all cultures, all income groups, all religions and all ages. They share common feelings of helplessness, guilt, isolation, fear and shame. All hope it never happens again, but frequently, it does. Are you abused?

Abuse is defined by the following:

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Domestic violence usually follows a three-step circular pattern. As part of the first step, tension rises until the abuse loses self-control. The second step is frequently accompanied by feelings of rationalization by the abuser and minimization of consequences of the abuse. In the final and third step, the abuser feels remorse. They do not feel the tension that they had before and are typically sorry for their actions. Quite frequently, they will ask for forgiveness, make promises to never do it again, and behave very lovingly toward the victim.

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Worthy of mentioning, during the third stage, the abuser often appears to be in true repentance, it is only the result of the abuser’s absence of tension and their feelings that the victim has “learned their lesson.” Once those feelings vanish and tension increases again, the battering is likely to reoccur.

Sadly, its common for both abusers and victims of domestic violence to have grown up in an abuse home.

You’ll find that very early on in a couples dating relationship, most of the predictors of domestic violence are present. These predictors can include use of violence or force to resolve problems, rigid ideas regarding the roles of men and women in a relationship, an abuser’s need to prove himself by acting macho and fears of a potential abuser’s anger.

Abusers are personable and charming when in public, but behave differently behind closed doors. They may appear reasonable by trying to influence others of their wives’ irrational and rebellious behavior, and trying to get others to see their side.

Negative consequences of domestic violence include higher rates of all health problems such as, chornic pain, gastrointestinal disorders and more. It can result in unwanted pregnancy, gynecological disorders, amd premature labor.

Victims of abuse have more heart and circulatory problems, and sexually transmitted disease, As for the psychologically abused, they suffer from depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, substance abuse, antisocial or suicidal behavior, and other adverse conditions. Consequences of social abuse include limited access to public life and health services, little emotional support from friends and family. Kids who witness abuse can develop psychiatric disorders, low self-esteem, violent behaviors, development disorders, and academic difficulties.

There are several factors related to domestic violence. Among the many include poor family functioning, male dominance in the family, marital conflict, prior injury from the same partner, a history of physical abuse, having a verbally abusive partner, partner history of drug or alcohol abuse, economic stress, being under the age of 24, and a history of childhood abuse.

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