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Welcome to Clayton Counselling Services. We are located in Duncan, British Columbia and are pleased to offer extensive counselling service, with over thirty years of professional experience. We are dedicated to building healthy, thriving, communities so don’t hesitate to click below and learn more about our services.

About Our Service
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Proudly delivering over fifty-five years of combined, professional counselling services for families and individuals. We are highly specialized in Addiction, Cognitive Therapy, Anger Management and much more. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more.

About Clayton Counselling
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Dr. Clayton, B.A. : M.Div. : D.Min : PhD (Psych) RCC has been providing exceptional counselling services in Ontario and British Columbia since 1997. A key member of several associations, Dr. Clayton has clearly demonstrated the highest quality counselling services in his community. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

About Dr. Kent
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Jan Clayton: B.A. (Psych); M.A. (Psych) is a highly respected Family Therapist with over twenty-five years of professional Clinical Counselling Experience, specializing in adolescents, families, individuals and couples. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more.

About Jan
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Clayton Counselling Services is pleased to offer a wide variety of effective, professional support services for Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Family, Addictions and so much more. Click here to learn more about our services and book a consultation, today! We look forward to hearing from you.

Our Counselling Services
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Today is the right day to become a healthier, happier, better version of yourself. We are here for you and no one should go through addiction alone. Our professional counselors are here to help! Click below to learn more and get started!

Substance Addictions
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We help you focus on your triggers and managing those situations, with our Anger Management therapy. Don’t hesitate to click below to learn more. We are ready, willing and available to be of assistance.

Anger Management
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Anxiety and Depression are best dealt with through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. CBT has been widely shown as an effective treatment of phobias, depression and anxiety. Click below to learn more.

Anxiety and Depression
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Bereavement is the grief and mourning experience following the death of someone important to you. While it’s an inevitable part of life—something that virtually all of us go through at some point—losing someone you love can be one of the most painful experiences you’ll ever have to endure. Don’t hesitate to learn more, we are here to help!

Bereavement Grief and Loss
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Bullying isn't just linked to depression and anxiety, it can also lead to more subtle effects such as problems with trust and self-esteem. Click below to learn more!

Anger Bullying and Depression
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We are pleased to offer expert child custody evaluation services, by our trained mental health professionals. Let us compile all the necessary details and reporting in the best interests of your child.

Child Custody Evaluations
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Understanding and adjusting to a new culture can come as shock to some people. Whether you are now living in a new culture or are trying to bridge cultural gaps in your relationships, it can be difficult to navigate cultural boundaries. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Cross Cultural Issues
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You can count on Clayton Counselling for Trauma and Crisis Intervention for our variety of approaches to provide psychological and emotional support to those experiencing stress in the immediate aftermath of traumatic event. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Crisis and Trauma Intervention
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If you are experiencing domestic abuse or family violence, please tell us as our services are highly geared towards you circumstances. Click below to learn more.

Domestic and Family Violence
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Family conflict occurs every day. Typically, when family members have different views or beliefs that clash, this can lead to family conflict. Sometimes, when people misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusion, this can often lead to arguments and resentment. Don't hesitate click below and learn more.

Family Conflicts
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Our services are invaluable during conflicts. Our professional services can help families resolve conflict in a practical, safe and positive manner. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Family Mediation / Resolution
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer professional Marriage and Family Therapy Counselling Service in British Columbia. You have come to the right place if you are seeking relationship counseling for yourself, significant other or family member. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Marriage / Family Counselling
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer the equivalent, hours-long conversation about your hopes, expectations and dreams as your prepare for the fine institution of marriage. We are here to help every step of the way! Don’t hesitate to click on the link below to learn more.

Marriage Preperation
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Let’s face it: Parents face difficult issues such as discipline, bad decision making of their kids, poor friend choices and school problems, all the time. The single parenting struggles aren’t always as much about the child, but the parent’s issues that make it more complicated. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Parenting Problems
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The average individual will change careers several times during his or her working life, according to career statistics. With an ever increase number of career choices, Clayton Counselling is here to help you on your life journey. Click below and learn more.

Personal and Career Changes
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is classified as a mental health condition, triggered by a terrifying event – either experiencing it or witnessing it. Some symptoms may include nightmares, anxiety, flashbacks as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Post Tramatic Stress Disorder
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Fear of Public Speaking or public speaking anxiety is a type of social anxiety and single most commonly feared situation. Clayton Counselling has helped hundreds with the verbal communication skills to improve careers, social life and overall confidence. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Public Speaking
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer professional Relationship Counselling Service. We help couples create more closeness and security with each other by exploring issues such as communication, infidelity and communication. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Relationship Counselling
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Self esteem therapy (cognitive behavioral therapy) is effective in the treatment of low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. We can help you recognize the cause and monitor negative beliefs, doubt, and anxiety in order to alleviate painful feelings which will help you take constructive action. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Self Esteem
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Clayton Counselling is pleased to offer a wide spectrum of techniques and therapies aimed at controlling a person’s level of stress, particularly chronic stress, usually for the purposes of and for the motive of improving everyday functioning. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Stress Management
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According to proponents of the concept, sexual addition, also known as sex addiction, is a state usually characterized by compulsive participation or engagement in sexual activity, particularly sexual intercourse, despite negative consequences. Click below and learn more.

Sexual Addiction
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Sexual dysfunction applies to both males and females. It can include pain during intercourse, involuntary painful contraction of the muscles, lack of interest or trouble having sex or enjoying sex. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more!

Sexual Dysfunction
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Child Sexual Abuse, also called Child Molestation is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation. If you’re a survivor of childhood sex abuse, Clayton Counselling is here to help. Don’t hesitate to click below and learn more.

Survivor of Childhood Sex Abuse
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more

Our Service Areas
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Counselling Crofton
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Counselling in Chemainus
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Counselling in Duncan
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Counselling in Ladysmith
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To help serve you better, we are conveniently located just a few moments from the Trans Canada Highway. We are pleased to be of service through our local communities, so don’t hesitate to contact us for your next appointment. We look forward to hearing from you. Don't hesitate to click below and learn more.

Counselling in Mill Bay
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A frequently asked questions list is often used in articles, websites, email lists, and online forums where common questions tend to recur, for example through posts or queries by new users related to common knowledge gaps. This is no different in the counselling world, so we have compiled a list of frequently asked questions for your convenience. Don't hesitate to click below to learn more.

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Connecting with Kent or Jan at Clayton Consulting, couldn’t be easier. We are pleased to offer our existing customers and potential clients with a number of easy to use and convenient contact methods to reach out to us. Don’t hesitate to connect with us and we will be pleased to answer all of your questions. Click below to learn more.

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Business Hours

Mon - Fri: 9AM - 7PM
Sat: 9AM - 3PM

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(250) 597-8274

Address

6038 Sterling Dr., Unit 7 Duncan BC V9L 5K4 Canada

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Self-esteem generally refers to how much confidence someone has in their own abilities and worth. The well-known Maslow’s hierarchy of needs places self-esteem at the center of what drives humans along with other necessities such as safety, love, and having enough food.

Self-esteem affects us all, it not only affects our thoughts but our behavior as well. For instance, someone with self-esteem may not believe that they are good enough for an opportunity and as result, might not even try for it, even knowing they could actually achieve it.

Our self-esteem will vary up and down throughout anyone’s life. It does not change quickly, however. Instead the change is gradual as a result of an ongoing internal monologue about a person’s sense of self-worth.

Improving one’s self-esteem takes quite a bit work, time and effort. In many cases, individuals may have unusually high self-esteem, which can also be unhealthy and might indicate a narcissistic personality disorder. Those with lower self-esteem, usually suffer from other health-related issues such as depression.

Signs / Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem

It can be extremely difficult for an individual to recognize self-esteem or negative self-image of themselves. Particularly those who’ve experienced negative thought patterns for a long time and therefore normalized it. Checking in on your self-esteem and self-image is extremely important for self-care.

Many people with lower self-esteem or negative self-image may behave meek, but they may also overcompensate by acting confident. Overcompensating can also take the form of belittling others, which can be very harmful to relationships.

Unfortunately, a low self-esteem and poor self-image can also lead to mental illness. For instance, metal health issues such as anxiety or depression, can result. Low self-image can also lead to eating disorders and body dysmorphia.

People with low self-esteem may

 

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Some individuals with low self-esteem and self-image issues can also have physical symptoms which can include some or all of the following:

What Causes Low Self-Esteem?

When it comes to factors of low self-esteem, every individual is different. Sometimes a person has low self-esteem as a result of a traumatic event. In other cases, several slammer events in life may have chipped away at someone’s esteem.

Uncovering the root causes of an individuals self-esteem can be achieved through therapy. Working with a professional can help individuals find and address what has triggered their self-esteem issues.

After working with an individual and uncovering causes of low self-esteem, patients can work to realize that these thoughts were not necessarily correct to being with and they are much more deserving of good things.

Causes of Low Self-Esteem

Some causes of low self-esteem include:

Building Health Self-Esteem / Self Image

Unhealthy self-esteem and self image can manifest itself over time. The following are some common techniques people can use to build healthy self-esteem and self-image.

Additional Pages

Family Mediation Canada The American Association of Christian Counselors The American Assoication of Christian Counselors Duncan, British Columbia Chamber of Commerce Humana Care
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